Many Ways to Help Yourself get Pregnant

As I was doing more research today to help my husband and I have a baby, I found several websites that are very helpful and give a lot of information that I didnt already know.
I also found out that there are many fertility drugs that can be taken by men and women and that there are several ways you take those medications. Either with a shot or a pill.
I also learned a lot about fertility treatments that you can have to help increase you chance of conceiving.
If you are trying to have a baby and you think things will never work your wrong, like they say, never say never. Hopefully within the next 6 months you will read in my blogs that I am having a baby.
Who knew that I would have to do all this research to have a baby when I didnt even try to get pregnant with my daughter?
Like they say patience is a virtue. So I guess being patient and not letting the small things in life stress me out, will get me what I want. That and a lot of praying to the lord.

I also found a few tips from therapists as how to help cope with not getting pregnant as fast as you want. Of course the pressure to raise a family can be enormous, and the thought of not being able to have children can make many people feel something is wrong with them.

Recognize that a fertility problem is a crisis. A fertility problem may be one of the most difficult challenges you'll ever face. Acknowledging this is a key to coping.

Don't blame yourself. Resist the temptation to get angry at yourself or to listen to the little voice in your head that's saying, "I shouldn't have waited; I'm being punished for having that abortion; I should have lost more weight or taken better care of my health; I shouldn't have assumed that I could have children when I wanted" or whatever negative thoughts you may be having. People can get caught in negative thinking patterns that only make matters worse.Instead of berating yourself, look forward to how you and your partner are going to manage the situation.

When you start feeling like you "should have" or "could have," remind yourself that your fertility problem is not your fault. Even if you could have made different decisions in the past, they're behind you. Concentrate on your future.

Work as a team with your partner. You and your mate should help each other through this time (and definitely not blame each other for your difficulty getting pregnant).

This doesn't mean you need to feel the same thing at the same time — that's one of the most common pitfalls for couples facing fertility problems. It does mean paying attention to what your partner's going through. If you're taking care of each other emotionally, you can unite to fight the problem.


Educate yourself. Read as much as you can about fertility problems and ask questions of your doctor and other couples in your situation. Staying educated is especially important when you're dealing with a fertility problem because the technologies behind the treatments are complicated and change quickly. You have to understand what is happening medically, so you can make good choices.

Set limits on how long you're willing to try. Some couples decide from the get-go that they won't go to extreme measures to have a baby. Others spend years and thousands of dollars exhausting all of their treatment options.

No one can tell you when to stop trying to conceive — that's a decision you need to make with your partner and doctor — but you'll feel more in control of your life if you start thinking in advance about how far you're willing to go to get pregnant.

Start by discussing your medical odds of getting pregnant, which treatments you're not willing to try, and your end goal. (For more help with this choice, read about making the decision to end fertility treatment.)

Decide how much you're willing to pay. With in vitro fertilization (IVF) averaging $12,400 a cycle, it's no wonder couples feel anxious about money, especially since women often need to go through multiple cycles before becoming pregnant.

To cope with the anxiety caused by the high costs of treatment, sit down and develop a financial plan. Start with your insurance: Find out exactly what it does and doesn't cover. If it covers some or all of your treatments, decide which one of you will monitor the paperwork and negotiate with the insurance company.

Get support from professionals and others with fertility problems. Society often fails to recognize the grief caused by infertility, so those denied parenthood tend to hide their sorrow, which only increases their feelings of shame and isolation.


If you'd like to talk to a therapist, look for one who understands reproductive medicine.

Just say no to baby-focused activities. If certain gatherings or celebrations are too painful for you — if all your siblings had babies in the last two years, say, or you keep getting invited to baby showers — give yourself permission to decline the invitation or at least to have a good cry afterward.

Balance optimism and realism. You need to be optimistic to go through a procedure. But if you're too hopeful — if your hope is unrealistic — you'll be setting yourself up for a huge fall. By keeping current on the technology and your diagnosis, you can get a good handle on what chance of success you have with each treatment.

The array of medical technologies available today leads many couples to keep trying month after month, year after year. But about a third of couples treated for fertility problems won't go on to have a biological child, and often they must make peace with that before they can move on with their lives. Staying realistic can help you make smart choices as you work your way through the emotional minefield of treatment.

Take care of yourself by pursuing other interests. Being treated for a fertility problem can feel like a full- or at least part-time job, so it's important to keep up with some of the activities or hobbies that bring you pleasure.

It won't be easy. Especially if you're doing something like going in for a blood test every other day, but look for ways to take care of yourself. Some recommend people get a massage, have a manicure — anything that can give them relief from the focus on fertility treatment.

If your old activities are painful — maybe all your friends are parents now — look for new diversions. If hiking sounds appealing, do that. Or take a class — painting, dance, or something else that's always tempted you.